What an adventure!

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What a world of adventure it would be!

A friend of mine from work recently shared that at the end of the month, she and her hubby are leaving their jobs to travel the world.

What??

That’s right – they are selling everything but what they are taking with them, selling their place and hitting the road.  She told me they have been planning this for a bit and really hardcore saved for the last year and a half.  No plans to return home at this time, just off to travel as long as the desire strikes them.

What an absolute leap of faith!  And how flipping fantastic would that be?  Taking time to travel the world, the only thing planned – adventure.  I told her I will be living vicariously through her as I hear about her adventures.

That got me thinking, what do I really want out of my life?  Like, really want?

: To share my life with an amazingly awesome man who I will share vows with in a few months.

: To be a mother.  I know this may be a challege, but some way- some how, I know I am meant to be a mother.  And for the possible chance to stay home with them when we do have them.

: To share my art with the world.  Thank goodness there is Etsy and other Etsy for that.

: To travel to all 50 states with my love.  We have a few checked off, but many to go.

: To travel overseas.  The bug bit me when I studied abroad for school, and now I crave more!

: And a huge one, to be debt-free!

Gosh, all of these things, and I wonder where the time will come for them all.  Patience, faith, trust in God that my path will include them when they are supposed to be.

Let’s Chat:  What do you really want??

 

What will be different this time?

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I think back to a few years ago, I was sitting in a room at a local church for a seminar through work. I was there with most of the department, all of us sitting in our three or four rows. The speaker was talking about protecting ourselves and keeping an eye out for our brothers and sisters. They talked about keeping communication open with your family and spouses. Then the statistics came. 75% divorce rate for men in the field, 99% for women. I look around the room to the almost 100 people attending, then I look on either side of me.  Sadly, that sounds about right.  Then I think, I am one of those statistics.  I was still a bit fresh from my divorce at the time of the seminar.

One of the women who sat with me that day recently asked me, “what will be different this time?”  That got me thinking.  I’ve been asked that before with this upcoming marriage with J. I put pen to paper.

: Communication :
J and I talk more than I ever have in any other relationship.  We talk about anything and everything. He is always the first person I want to talk to whenever I need a listening ear. We check-in often about our relationship, if there are things we need to work on, or things we really like how they are working.

: Laughter :
The laughter in our house is constant and contagious.  We have our jokes that only we understand. We understand each other’s humor and are mutually weird. We make goofy faces, we make up songs together and use them as ring tones.  Before I met J, I hadn’t laughed this much in years, and now that it’s back, I never want the laughter to leave again.

: Strength in Faith :
J and I both of the same faith base, and have goals to grow in our faith individually, as well as together. While we don’t have a home church at the moment, we have taken time to do our own studies of the bible, and other faith-based books that have studies with them. God has a very present place in both our hearts, and we intend to keep it that way with our marriage as well.

: Common goals :
When I look to the future, I see J standing beside me.  I have always pictured us as one of those adorable old couples who you fall in love with as they sit holding hands on the park bench.  We have goals of making a home together, starting a family, traveling the world, creating art together.  When we look to the future, we look outward in the same direction.

: 100% support for each other :
We are there for each other in any decision that is made.  We back each other. We stand by each other. J and K – Battle Buddies 4 Life!

To say that another divorce would never happen would be foolish. I have learned my lesson in saying “never”. What I can say is that J and I are fully committed, and will do whatever it takes to make this marriage a strong and successful one. We are ready to take on the world together!

What is one thing you think every marriage must have to last?

Living with Intention

A goal that I have in 2014, and the rest of my life really, is to live with intention.  To not walk through life on auto-pilot.  There have been too many days that I just do what I’ve always done, expecting a different result.  I have decided life won’t be what I really want it to be if auto-pilot is the only mode I move in.

I am making the effort to spend more time, consciously, with family and friends.  I am going to the gym at least four times a week rather than ‘wishing I would have’.  I am working to learn more about growing my blog and finding my voice.  I am making a point to set time aside each day for some quiet time to pray, for my fiance, and for others who are very important to me.

One thing that I have done this week to work towards this goal was starting my Prayer Notebook, to intentionally pray.  I am working to stregthen and grow in my relationship with God, both alone, and with J.  I touched on this subject briefly here.  I have always felt the pull to pray more, but didn’t feel like I was able to self-guide well.  I had questions.

“Was I doing it right?”

“Where am I supposed to pray?”

“How long do you pray for?”

Then, as if God were answering, I began noticing the subject of prayer metioned on a few blogs that I frequently read.  Amanda over at The Lady Okie wrote about her plan to pray for her husband, family and friends every day, all year long.  From there, I found a list of Prayers for Your Husband that Elizabeth at Oak & Oats had posted.  J may not be my husband yet, but why shouldn’t I start now?  I dove a little further, and found Jamie at See Jamie Blog and her post about her Prayer Binder.

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There came the “Ah Hah” moment!  A Prayer Notebook, why hadn’t I thought of that?  A section for J, for family and friends, for my future children, for specific prayers.  And so the creation began.  I worked first on the section for J, and made my pages of the 31 Prayers from Elizabeth’s list as a guide.  I also made my list of family and friends to pray for each day with Amanda’s idea as a base.  These ladies, I’m telling you, if you haven’t checked out their blogs yet, you should.  They are very godly women, and aren’t afraid to talk about it.  They are an inspiration to me, someone who is working to talk about her faith more openly.  For I am a Christian woman, a child of God.

I also intend to be one of those who prays for others when a prayer request is put out into the universe.  I made sure to include a Prayer Request section in my Prayer Notebook just for that.  Whenever someone has asked for prayer, I would pray for them that moment, then forget for the following days.  In this section, I will keep a list of requests that come in so I can continue to pray for this person and whatever situation they may ask for prayer at that moment.  If any of you out there have a prayer request, I would love to add it into my Request section and pray for you as well.

Time to strengthen

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There has been a lot of talk lately between J and I of all that is to come this year for us together, and each individually. With all that happened in 2013, we have decided it is time for us to strengthen our bonds, both with each other and with God. This year will be a year where faith is needed more than ever.

I don’t really consider myself religious, I don’t read the bible every day, I don’t go to church every week (heck, we don’t even have a home church right now).  However, I do consider myself spiritual and of having very strong faith.  I believe each of us has a path, a purpose while we are here on Earth.  I look back at my life over the last years, and I can pinpoint exactly moments when I strayed from my path and tried to make a path of my own.  Decisions where I took the wrong fork in the road, when I ignored red-flags.  I was unfulfilled, something was missing.  I have always had a strong faith, but it was not as strong as it should have been at that time.  I also was with a partner who did not find it very important to stregthen and grow in his faith.  As I took the journey to grow my faith on my own, I became a stronger woman and began to stand for myself and what I needed.  This is when I went through some major life changes.  I still remember the moment in my car on the way home from work one November evening when I called out to God, and put my life in His hands.  I was ready to stop fighting, and living through such struggle, and was ready to give up the reins and let Him lead me.

I also met a man who became a very important part of my life (and still is!!), and he is a wonderful Godly man.  We talked about our faith, our spirituality, in a way that I have never talked with someone before.  It ignited this fire in me to continue to grow my relationship with God.  I began doing my own bible studies, we found a church that felt like home, it was a very riveting time.

Then life got busy, we moved, I started work full-time, J went back to school, and some of the study fell to the wayside.  But we are feeling the pull again to grow in God, both individually and together.  We started studying “Conversations with God” during our vacation back in August before the real whirlwind of life, but then life got busy again.  I have recently cracked the book and study guide back open (I’m visual and need to see it) while J has been listening to the audio book.  It feels so wonderful to be studying and growing again.  I don’t know how I was able to stay away so long.

J and I look forward to the year, and all that God has planned for us.  We are united, we are strong, we are faithful!